Boyfriend ‘joking’ about crossing a boundary

[Cheesestring66]

My boyfriend and his friend group all speak openly and sex and make ‘laddish’ jokes about it. When I met my boyfriend 2 years ago I specifically told him I don’t want our sex life spoke about and he agreed, he said he used to talk like this but won’t because I’ve asked him not to.
a few times now he has made jokes about it saying things like “il just tel the guys that you like blank” or “il let them all know about your kinks”. He says this is just flirty banter between us but it really bothers me? Like joking about crossing these boundaries isnt funny to me? For context we are both late 30s. I don’t understand why he is doing it

Tell him you can't wait to show off stories about his cross dressing...

@AGodawfulsmallaffair Yeah. Quite. None of it needs to be true either. Haha.

I’d point out you think it’s a strange thing to find funny, that it makes him look unattractively immature. That you were hoping for a more adult relationship and aren’t sure whether this one is working for you.

It's disrespectful and would be a deal breaker for me I'm afraid. The thought of any intimate moments being shared for ego and laughs, or the threat of it, - nah.

He's threatening you. Either behave or I'll tell the lads.

And whats with him saying it's flirty banter? Flirty is supposed to turn you on, banter is supposed to be funny. He saying he'll tell the lads is neither a turn on nor funny. Or maybe him threatening you does turn him on 🤔

Time to dump his stupid, insensitive, disrespectful arse.

The bigger the lie the better 😆