Please help. So we have a year old baby who literally does not sleep. Will wake every single hour of every single night, and I function on 2hours max a night of broken sleep. Been breastfeeding for a year as it was best but my body has been drained of every ounce of life. That on top of hyperemesis for 8 months. Basically my mind and body has been through hell. All I asked for was support and understanding. Partner has gone out many times whilst pregnant, promised to be home by night time but didn't and I ended up in hospital on a drip as I was too weak to get uo for a drink. That's what hyperemesis does to you. Even after birth, he would go out on this retirement, that retirement, office Christmas party in may and staying in hotels when I asked, well begged, please stay and help me at night as I can't cope. Mentally I'm exhausted and have PND. His family see me as the enemy and he has lied to my face and denied it even when caught out on the lie!
Issue now is a stag. He went for three days abroad and I wasn't told any details until a week before. He comes back and says there is now a second home stag. I've set an ultimatum that it's the stag or me. I can't keep feeling second best and always an after thought. He is best man and it's his brother stag but am I wrong in wanting support from him? If baby slept it wouldn't be an issue but when my mental health is so bad that I've been unable to return to work, on antidepressants now too and just feel utterly lost, am I being selfish? He says it's tradition. He be gone a full weekend again. I've said go but just come back in the night, they will all be half cut and at least he can still help me. But he refuses.
Looking for opinions as I have no one else to talk to.
Thanks for reading