This is how my husband has treated me in the past. Is it abusive?
Calling stupid, a moron, a retard.
Getting cross and telling me I am entitled and have no respect for him because I accidently stood on his coat and put some books on his lap in the car (meant to put them in the bag on the floor but it was full).
Blaming me for the name calling because I say stupid stuff and push him to it and don't listen.
Being told I never listen if I disagree(I see it as disagreeing, he sees it as nott listening).
Years ago locked me out the house and called me a slut because he thought I was messaging his friend (I offered to pick his friend up who was drunk and lost as a favour and he misread the message)
He works away for months at a time. I posted about this before because I wanted to move closer to friends and family. I have two young kids and moved to be close to his work but he has been away for 6 months and due away again in October aswell as having lived apart the previous year when I had a small baby and a toddler. I asked him if I could move to have support and not be so isolated.
He said no. I didn't do it. I came back to be with him.
Since then he's given me no affection. He's told me I should get a grip and that I'm ridiculous for thinking my life is hard. I'm ungrateful because I was struggling and all I do is complain because he works hard for us and I was struggling being away from him so much with no friends and family and small kids. He said I should have made friends but I have tried.
He told me he doesn't know if he can be with me now because I've betrayed him and he doesn't see us the same. Said he needed time. I've waited weeks. He said all I've done is argued. I've been asking him to let me know when there will be an end to this. He can't give one and it's torture.
He's not ended it because I haven't given him space. Says its all my fault.
I feel horrendous
Sorry that's so long. I just needed to let it out. I don't know what to do.
I know it was hard for him to worry I was leaving and not seeing us much but I didn't even go in the end and I still get told I've done an awful thing and it can't be forgiven.
I'm just hurting from everything. I worry about my kids and what will happen