Red flags?- sexism

[Motherofboys4]

Hi all. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years- a long time to just now be seeing red flags.
he keeps making comments to me that are just not sitting with me right. Things like ‘’women wanted equal rights, you can carry all the heavy bags and I’ll carry your drink’’ ‘’I hate feminists’’
His actions make me believe he firmly thinks women belong in the kitchen, he never used to be like this I don’t know where it came from.
He made a comment last night that if I ever left him or wasn’t able to ‘look after him’, he’d move in with our kids and they’ll have to cook for him, or their wives would! WIVES! He doesn’t cook ever, he says he can’t although I know he can because when he was still wooing me he would cook for me. He won’t even make himself a sandwich he’d rather go hungry.
He is in general giving me the biggest ick and I don’t know what to do about it. Can I suddenly stop cooking for him after all this time without having to give reasons and have a huge argument? Do I give up and throw the whole man away? We have a daughter and just knowing she’s growing up seeing this has me seeing red.

You said he hasnt always been like this - is there any chance he’s been spending time on YouTube or similar? I’ve come across this before and the men have been getting hooked on the likes of Jordan Peterson and the kind of mens rights stuff, and it sounds like he’s parroting a load of that.

Where do you think this is all coming from?

What do you think his response would be if you told him that what he is saying makes it seem like he resents women and thinks they are lesser than him, and that you find it disturbing and unpleasant? I would also point out that it's going to be damaging to your daughter to hear those attitudes regularly at home.

Sounds like he’s being influenced by someone, either friend (s) or online. Try looking at his search history?
Whatever the reason, it’s got to stop, where he’s at is unhealthy for you and your daughter and it needs to change before it gets worse.
Bottom line is that either he changes, he gets out, or you and your kids accept the unacceptable as normal.

Is this a new thing?

Thanks for the replies. He spends all of his time on YouTube so it could be that!
Im definitely going to speak to him about it tonight when the kids are in bed to speak more freely.
It is all new behaviours, but I’m not sure if it’s new thoughts or just something he’s decided to speak up on now. I’ve recently gone back to work after staying home with the kids so I’ve been trying to get us more equitable in the house with chores and food (unsuccessfully), so I think it could be a pushback to the changes.

Is he watching old Bernard Manning videos?! That turnabout sounds strange.

Ugh, sounds like he has come across the Manosphere or the Red Pill community online.. Andrew Tate and all his cronies, there’s too many names to mention .Horrible how it poisons men’s minds against women.

Sounds more old school than Andrew Tate. More like Alf Garnett.

It wouldn't be Jordan Peterson.