Abit of a long one but I’m going out of my mind and really need some opinions, advice or thoughts on this!
Me and my husband have been married 15 years, last year (October), I found out after a worryingly amount of letters coming through the post that he had been gambling and had got us into a huge amount of debt, around 60k. He revelled that this had been going on around 5-6 years, he moved out of our home to his parents for around a month, he seemed support, counselling and I agreed to support him through this.
This year around February time I find out he has decided himself that he does not need the counselling, during this time he had made no effort at home, no effort on our marriage or his recovery from addiction.
fast forward to last week, I put a water bottle into his work bag so he didn’t forget it. I can see a pile of letters, my heart instantly sunk, I panicked whether there was more debt I didn’t know about, eviction notices etc. I took them out to read through them and realised they were all old letters that he must of been hiding in there. As I put them back I felt a package, I pulled it out and looked inside to find 2 bras, completely shocked not being what I thought I was going to find at all! Two different sizes and definitely not mine!! He was putting my daughter to bed and didn’t know what to do, he came down and I confronted him. He confirmed that he had bought them off a selling site for to use for his own pleasure. He was obviously very shocked I had found them, he packed up went to his parents and left his wedding ring.
im at a complete loss, I was just recovering from the trust lost regarding the finances but now I have a completely different trust issue! It made me feel physically sick he would do this, I’m even struggling to look at him. I don’t know what to do next, feeling exhausted. Please help 😔