Found topless nudes with medical face mask on

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I found these on his email, he sent them to himself. The images looked like they were of real people and not off a porn site.

I'm just so confused and disgusted by why he'd do this. I asked him if he knows these women? Has he ever spoken or messaged these women? he swore on the kids lives that he hasn't, for him to swear on that is a massive thing and I believe him because of that.

However I logically don't believe him. Initially when i confronted him he said it was just random adverts that get sent when he watches films on random sites online. When I questioned further and said so why would you send it to yourself to another one of your email accounts he didn't say anything and didn't give me an answer. When the topic came up again today he said 'i put it on there to catch you out, to see if you go through my phone, ive seen people do this on tiktok.' This is a ridiculous lie that he's now made up and is trying to fool me with. If this was the case he should have said that its fake when I found it or he could have used fake cheating text messages to catch me out not one with a woman showing her tits.

I just want to ask more questions so my brain can comprehend and process what happened, i need to know in order to move from this. I feel my trust has been violated.

What questions can i ask him to get to the bottom of this? Clear questions that he can't manipulate the wording of and has to give a precise answer.

You won't get the truth no matter what you ask. He has proven he will lie by changing his story. The trust is broken

Men look at tits. Anyone who thinks they don't is deluding themselves. I'm more surprised at the amount of women who end their relationships because they found out their man looks at tits. It's what men do.

I don't know what's more disturbing , men with partners that send themselves pics of half naked women or ppl like you that normalise it... maybe in your world its normal but to most with a brain it's not OK.

What's the point in asking questions? He's clearly lied so far.

And as for...

he swore on the kids lives that he hasn't, for him to swear on that is a massive thing and I believe him because of that.

Don't be so naïve. I mean firstly no-one ever died because someone swore on their life and lied, and secondly he knows you think it's a 'massive thing' and will automatically believe him for some reason.

He swore on your kids life about something and that is the proof you need that he is telling the truth? Are you both 9?

Swearing on the kids lives suggests to me he is a liar. He knows YOU would never do that. You are judging him by your standards.

His ‘I’m testing you’ tale is the tale of a lying panicky man.

He is a liar. What else does he hide?

You also are asking how to word things so he has to give a straight answer. Does he often manipulate the truth or lie by omission. Maybe to work colleagues or because he doesnt want to do something or because he is uncomfortable?

What is his general character like? Is he always honest?

He is having affairs and has taken naked photos of the women he sees. The surgical masks were to reassure them that they could not be identified in the photos.

A friend’s husband did this. Pre covid some of the women were headless in the photos, presumably because they refused to be photoed if they could be identified.

He was a nice guy. No one believed he would cheat. But he was. A serial, multiple cheat

What questions can i ask him to get to the bottom of this? Clear questions that he can't manipulate the wording of and has to give a precise answer

There is no such question. He’s prepared to lie and you know he is.

Is the issue that he has / looks at pictures of topless women or that they are wearing medical face masks? You said it's women (plural) so it sounds more like porn use/ a bit of a kink. Either he just likes boobs or maybe he likes boobs in combination with medical masks?

I expect he's quite embarrassed that you've found them and perhaps your reaction has made him feel ashamed. It seems pretty mild as far as porn/ kink goes. I wouldn't be able to resist the temptation to wander into the bedroom wearing a surgical mask though 😆

for him to swear on that is a massive thing and I believe him because of that.

Come on. He was scrabbling for anything to see what you’d believe. Just look at the TikTok nonsense.

He’s trying to dig himself out of a hole. Don’t be naive enough to think that he’s not lying because of this.

My ex swore on his mother’s life he wasn’t cheating. He was lying.

I’m a bit confused by what they are. All of them are wearing face masks? Because if so that seems a bit odd. If you’re messaging people directly and sharing messages / nudes it seems unlikely everyone would be wearing a mask. More likely that they would just not show their face. I’m wondering if they’re off some niche site.

Exactly! It’s so ‘massive’ he’s lying to you 🙄

The medical masks element makes this sound dark and sinister to me. Did it look to you like they were taken without the permission of the people involved?

For most people, cool mums aside, with a shred of self respect this would be a dealbreaker. The lying. The content and the gross disregard and objectifying of women would be enough to give me the ick forever. I just could not find this attractive in a man. All respect would be gone. So rather than let the relationship die out slowly, I would ask him to leave. Give me time to think.

It’s gross op.

Swearing on kids lives = lies

No normal person telling the truth ever swears on their kids lives

He’s not a medical professional is he? I’m not sure it’s that much of an issue if it’s from a site, but the lying is. However if you’ve gone in all guns blazing, he’s lied rather than say say ‘yeah it’s a little kink’