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What now??

9 replies

wingliner · 29/04/2024 00:00

This evening I have had a very blunt conversation to say that I am not happy that our marriage is sexless

It's pains me to say this but everything else in our relationship is good but the sex is important to me.

We are clearly mismatched sex drive wise and I don't know what to do next?

OP posts:
totallylost1 · 29/04/2024 00:42

Is there a reason why your partner isn't having sex with you? Depressed, stressed, work/family issues?

Not saying this is the reason but I know when I was with someone who was always going on about sex it made me want to do it less.

jsku · 29/04/2024 00:48

What did your husband(?) wife(?) say?

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wingliner · 11/06/2024 12:28

An update. An update I didn't ever think I'd be writing. 2 weeks ago I said it was over and I was done with my marriage unless things changed
I want see
I want more sex
I want to go out more
Have fun more and just live my life better

And you know what it has worked. I can't believe it. It's like the realisation has suddenly hit.

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something2say · 11/06/2024 17:51

Tell us more!!!

Onlylonelyontheinside · 11/06/2024 17:59

something2say · 11/06/2024 17:51

Tell us more!!!

All That’s missing from this is , Wella Wella Wella …

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wingliner · 27/06/2024 13:25

Wella wella wella
Oh

Hahahaha

It's seems it was a conversation and was expecting as she knew I wasn't happy, we have introduced a lot of things lol, we have been going out rather than staying in. Staying in gets boring; watching Tv, on your phone - it's a pathway to divorce if you ask me.

Anyway I am proud to say we are on the good road and lovehoney.com have had increased sales lol

Too much information??? Sorry

OP posts:
Sookafatwan · 27/06/2024 14:07

What did you purchase? Im guessing BDSM gear...

Original poster
wingliner · 27/06/2024 14:23

No .... I like your guess but no lol

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Mrsknowitall · 27/06/2024 14:51

I think it is really important to go out on date nights and make each other feel wanted, me and dh have 3 school age children so we don’t get to go out quite a lot during the week but we have a good support network and will often drop them off to our parents so we can have a bit of us time and about 3-4 times a year will go off to a spa for the night or just a nice random hotel, we’ve been together 10 years now and still in the honeymoon period with lots of flirting, he laughs that he can still make me blush. I’m glad you have managed to turn things around, long may it last 🙏

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