Well thanks to you lovely lot I have realised that my ex was an abusive, manipulative, and controlling prick. Right from the start he was manipulating my emotions (in the first month of seeing each other he cancelled a date at the time we were supposed to meet and then got cross when I was l pissed off about it - yes I know I should have left then). He made me a shadow of who I was, anxious, depressed, needy and insecure. I refuse to be beaten by this and am determined to go on and have a healthy relationship with someone else before I'm too old (almost 53 😔). I've sorted some therapy but am looking for recommendations for books to read about relationships. Any ideas?