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Financial secrecy in marriage

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Myleaf · 07/04/2024 14:21

Hi I’m looking for some advice please.
I have been married for 3 years, together 12. 2 children, a mortgage but no shared bank account.
husband is self employed and has been struggling for work the last few months. I have always paid the bills and he just gives me money when he feels like it but hasn’t contributed in around 4 months. Every time I ask him if he’s ok for money he tells me yes.
I shouldn’t have done, but I checked search history on his iPad last week and found searches such as “will a personal loan effect a remortgage” and then a Santander application for a loan which I’m not sure whether he’s taken out. I want to confront him but I know he will go absolutely mental about me checking the iPad despite him putting a tracker on my phone for no reason last year when I was working! There’s other issues but this is the main one at the moment!!

we are not really talking at the moment as every time I get home from work he’s done nothing in the house so I confronted him about it last week. Whenever we have a disagreement he acts like a child and gives me the silent treatment!

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