Do you have a FWB/ lover? Tell me about your experience please!

[Superlambaanana]

Just that really. A follow on from the thread discussing what it means to be truly Single and free of any desire or ties to a male romantic partner. A few posters commented that they are single but have FWB to provide, ahem, occasional, light relief, if you will.

Do you have one? How does it work? Do you have rules, boundaries - are they said or unsaid? How do you contact your 'friend' and what do you do with them - sex only or other stuff?
Do you buy them a birthday present? What would happen if they, or you, wanted to take it further and start a proper relationship? Does this situation cause you any angst or is it entirely blissful?

I am interested in all your experiences and advice because I am single and I am thinking of (lowers voice and puts on a sultry accent) 'taking a lover'. Or should I just forget it and focus on becoming a fully evolved, zen-like, capital S Singleton?!

@Superlambaanana mine was with someone who was pretty much a 'loser' type if im being superficial here. He had no money, smoked a ton of weed, lived with his parents, but on the flipside was a very caring person who treated me well post a DV relationship. We met online and just met for sex but after a few years, I realised I had got my confidence back and wanted to meet someone decent. Then he then professed his love. He was very resentful that I wanted more for myself so we stopped being friends.

My advice : it's only doable if you know there is no future

@Loopylooni indeed. I am very much against falling back into a relationship and so see this whole thing as playing with fire! But I am a slightly cold, so lighting one is also quite appealing!

Used to have a FWB years ago. I had a job at the time that required an awful lot of overseas travel so was not around much and I was also not long out of an abusive relationship so mentally not in a place to fully emotionally engage in another relationship. I missed sex though and took the plunge by meeting someone through a hook up app. We met a few times a month, treated each meeting like a date so went out for drinks, dinner, cinema, theatre etc and yes had lots of great sex. It was respectful, fun and a classic no strings set up. Lasted a few years and was perfect for me at that particular time in my life.

@TheCadoganArms this sounds perfect!