I had my suspicions this time last year that my husband was messaging a female colleague. I saw messages as I know/ his login details. We tried to get over it etc and she eventually left for another job. I was off ill recently and noticed him on his phone. Once again messages to her and from her, some flirty other office gossip and day to day chit chat. I’ve printed out and screen shot a few messages as I knew he would deny. Anyway he has been encouraging her to come back as there is a vacancy. She recently went to another job but only lasted 2 days as she said it wasn’t for her. I asked him outright the other night and he said nothing has ever happened between them and he could understand why I was annoyed?! Anyway that was Wednesday and I’ve checked his messages and nothing there. (From past experience this was hard to believe)However I’ve just checked his phone and there’s messages on another app. I think I am generally done and I am over it all. I told him we are over and he said it’s not! I have told him I have evidence to file for divorce which has made him understand how serious I am. Oh and by the way she is going back to work there. (Found out by reading messages) He has said he will look for another job and delete her from all social media . I don’t trust him anymore. Everytime his phone pings in second guessing who it is and I cannot live like this anymore. We’ve been married nearly 20 years, no children. I have no financial worries as I am main breadwinner. I can’t talk to anyone in real life so feel like I’m going to explode. Thank you for reading.