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Should I try and find out if STBXH has cheated

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Pinksparkles84 · 19/03/2024 18:13

I’m not quite sure what I would achieve by doing this, but during my 10 year relationship, I came across some sex texts with his ex whilst I was pregnant with our DS. i found out about these texts years later and we decided to put it behind us and he would delete her as Facebook friend and delete her number. A year later I picked up his phone and found a message from her saying ‘how are you?x’ there were no other messages and her number came up rather than as a contact.
Anyways we’ve now separated and I keep finding myself wondering if I’ve made the right decision. I guess something like this would make me hate him and so I wouldn’t be thinking this way. Any advice would be great. Saying that, I did remember that we had an argument and he shoved me into the door, so I’m trying to remember all these negatives!

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LaviniasBigBloomers · 19/03/2024 18:17

He physically abused you and you left. Let that be enough. Do the Freedom course online and free yourself from thoughts of him, he genuinely isn't worth it.

justtidying · 19/03/2024 18:49

What @LaviniasBigBloomers said

Pinksparkles84 · 19/03/2024 21:00

Good point. I guess it wouldn’t make any difference in any case as sex texting is a type of cheating anyways. I’ve heard of the freedom programme, I’ll take a look into it.

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