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DP has become disinterested in relationship

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MellowTree · 16/03/2024 10:25

DP and I have been together for 7 years. We got engaged 3 years ago but then things changed. He has become disinterested in our relationship. We have talked a lot about our future and, on paper, he wants the same things but there is no evidence to suggest he wants to be with me any more.
He has become very lazy in all aspects of our relationship. There is no intimacy unless he wants sex but he has noticed that it's no longer something I want and this is something that bothers him. He does not help out around the house unless I keep on at him to "help" me and then he expects me to thank him for doing it.
We had originally set a date for our wedding, but that passed without him noticing as he stopped being interested in it, so I stopped planning it.
We have 4 children between us, 2 are mine and 2 his.
I feel like he doesn't want to be in the relationship any longer, although he says differently, but that he is waiting for me to make the decision.
I am aware that I am likely being played a fool here. Any other thoughts on the matter are greatly received!!

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Dollychopsporkchops · 16/03/2024 10:32

Then make decision and leave. Surely this isn’t the life you’ve envisioned for yourself? it’s good that you didn’t marry because imagine being stuck with a partner like him?

He’s checked out and worse still, he’s checked out and won’t leave you, he’s just waiting for you to end things.

RandomMess · 16/03/2024 10:34

He's checked out, you are useful for helping with his DC/money/house.

Take control of your life. What do you want?

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 16/03/2024 10:35

In the wise words of Lizzo:
If he don't love you any more
Then walk your fine ass out the door

MellowTree · 16/03/2024 15:05

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 16/03/2024 10:35

In the wise words of Lizzo:
If he don't love you any more
Then walk your fine ass out the door

This made me chuckle... I'm not walking my fine ass out of any door though. I own the house 🤣

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