What to wear on first date.

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I'm 44, I haven't been on a date for years, I'm planning a coffee date and I have no clue what to wear. Was thinking something like this, perhaps with denim jacket, but is it too much for coffee? Any suggestions welcome, I'm 5'3 size 10-12.
https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/dresses/apricot-green-paisley-print-tiered-hem-midi-dress/p/886316433?extcam=UK_PPC_PLA_Designer_NC_Google_DV_m_AGID_126584460476_PRID_8863281&gad_source=1&_cclid=Google_CjwKCAiAlcyuBhBnEiwAOGZ2SxffjyGcCey_1tNozbB_8TmJD1JvDj9mrl9vVkIj7dyDxhtRt8sXBRoCbD4QAvD_BwE&gclid=CjwKCAiAlcyuBhBnEiwAOGZ2SxffjyGcCey_1tNozbB_8TmJD1JvDj9mrl9vVkIj7dyDxhtRt8sXBRoCbD4QAvD_BwE

Wear the dress ! you like it and if its comfortable then go for it. I think it would be great for a coffee date and you can wear it again when shopping or going for lunch with friends. Enjoy your date 😀

Thanks so much for all your views. There are clearly 2 camps, I now have to decide which look to go with, but I have just under 2 weeks and I don't think I can decide anything until the dress is here. It may look hideous so be totally out.

No to the skinnies. That is very dated.

Ha ha the Levi's ad with wide leg jeans and a nice white top was directly above your post for me 🤣

If your date isn't until 2 weeks, I can't imagine how many times you'll chop and change your opinion 😂

I personally wouldn’t wear doc martens on a date, I would go for a more feminine shoe

It’s very hard to make a suggestion as to what might suit you without knowing your body type
I personally wear a nice fitted pair of jeans, a nice top and shoes and then make sure my hair and makeup are done well, I prefer to be semi casual though

I agree with pp's that you should wear the best version of your normal style, but imo the wide leg jeans and a top suggestions are surely for coffee with friends and not 'coffee with someone I want to want to fancy me'. So I'm voting for makeup, dress and a little bit of flesh!

Go with what your normally wear, otherwise you will just feel uncomfortable. The dress you have ordered is absolutely fine for a coffee date with a casual jacket. Hope the date goes well!

I missed that memo, but as they look fab on me I will continue to wear them lol.

I mean a lot can happen in 2 weeks, I may not even be interested in having coffee with him by then.

The dress is lovely for a coffee date.
Much much better than the suggested jeans etc

Skinnies will never die for me either, my legs and arse deserve better than being encased in baggy jeans, they're by far the best bit of me since I lost a lot of weight 😁

@DoYouWantToStartACultWithMe you know they'll come into fashion again before long, then we'll be like trend setters lol.

I love the dress. Hope it’s nice on.
Wear whatever you feel like yourself in.

I love the dress.
I always dress up for dates...not stiletto style but clean, groomed, classy.

Any man who thinks I look 'dated' walking in wearing skinny jeans or unfeminine for wearing DM-style boots can fuck right off frankly.

Couldn't agree more, well said

I haven’t worn jeans for about 25 years since Levi’s stopped doing Ultra Curve as they’re the only ones I’ve ever found that fitted me properly.

However I definitely think skinnies look better than the wide leg ones on the first page. Maybe be an age thing but they just look too casual and a bit scruffy to me.

On a first coffee date I always wear something very similar to my day to day. If he doesn't like it, he's not going to like me. It's a second dinner date where I'll get dressed up all fancy.

Some of these responses are hilariously Mumsnet - don't wear a dress! Just chuck your jeans on.

No skinnies? Since when? Skinny jeans, heels and a cropped leather jacket are my regular go to. I feel like I've been walking around in a bubble now! 😩

Skinnies live forever. Ignore the haters 😁😁😁

This look is perfect. You're stylish but not looking like you tried too hard.

I haven't read the full thread but as someone who started a new relationship at 39 I wish you the best of luck with it

What a strange response, for a start not everyone likes to wear jeans. It isn't like she's picked a fancy bodycon and stilettos, it might not be to everyone's taste but there is absolutely nohing wrong with a casual dress for a coffee date.

The dress is great, what I mean is that acccording to Mumsnet somehow dresses are too much (??) and jeans will do. Not all responses but it's very typical of Mumsnet to have an issue with a woman wanting to dress up nicely in case they are to be "too ott"