So I'm staying with family atm due to circumstances (hopefully leaving spring/early summer).
My sleeping pattern wound up getting later and later until I'm now struggling to sleep till 7am. You know that way where even if you go early you lie there for hours.
Anyway, my dad is musical. And used it for income while I grew up. He's supposed to be retired but still takes gigs occasionally.
He has been playing one new musical instrument early, as he learning it (ah the joys, lol) every day the past few months when I'm sleeping. Obviously its annoying but I don't want to make a fuss and I love that he has a hobby he enjoys. But tbh it's probably contributing to my sleep problems as it makes me stress 'I'm gonna get woken early' y'know.
Anyway, today, earlier than usual,he picks up an even worse instrument. Like, the mother of all annoying ones.
Now for background, he played this when I was a kid trying to study for my school exams all day every day those few weeks (under 'I have to practice') so all study went out the window for me and I was just so stressed by it all. And then did the same in subsequent years (always at my exam times it would be worse) I ended up arguing with him about it back then to no avail. It almost felt like he was deliberately ramping it up during those times...
Basically, it's a bone of contention.
Anyway, I've just ended up stupidly (half asleep and woken) having a rather irritated convo that reminded me of my teen years with him. I tried to explain it was just about 'having kindness' how 'he knows I've been struggling to sleep'.
I stupidly brought up how he did it back then in my teen years too. Only to once again be met with no acknowledgement of how it...hurt me at the time, I guess. Because it's not just about the stress and inconvenience. Really when you get down to it. It's about the inability to consider other peoples feelings and needs.
Anyway, que him round in a cycle of 'you need to fix your sleeping pattern it's self imposed' and me, acknowledging he's right about that but then trying to get him to meet me half way and also acknowledge that he often isn't thinking about other people when it comes to his music (I know mum struggles too) and he just...can't.
I definately feel like an asshole now though I mean I'm like, I've just asked someone not to play music in their own home at a fair time of day!
So I guess I'm the dick today.
I guess I would probably have been able to keep my mouth shut about it if I was sleeping at a fair time. Even though its a problem generally because honestly...i also HATE it! It's like nails on chalkboard to me. So that doesn't help.
Ugh anyway. I dunno what I want from this. Just to vent i guess. I think I might go down and apologise for being snappy with him.
So annoyed with myself for losing my cool.
I mean its not like he's ever going to acknowledge things from the past. More chance of hell freezing over.
Hopefully I can move out soon xD