People pleaser

[Desolate2nite]

I have agreed to a date this weekend but really don't want to go. I said yes as I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I'm such a wimp 😔

So cancel

You are a people pleaser, used to putting other people first.

The most important person in your life is YOU.

You'll hurt him worse going and getting his hopes up anyway. Just text and say you can't make it now.

How would you feel making the effort to meet someone who doesn’t want to be there?

Who are you pleasing? Not you or him.

Ha ha, I miss Covid days, was such a good excuse!

You're just going to have to come up with something else....
Dead cat
Sick Gran
Car problems
Etc etc

Just tell him you’ve thought about it and changed your mind. Do it by text if you can’t face talking to him.

And draw up boundaries. No isn’t a hard word to say

It is ok for you to say, sorry, but you're not the man for me. I;ve changed my mind. I wish you well finding your match.
If he comes back. Then it's ok to block him. Although, I would block him sooner than later.

Also, search google for assertiveness advice.

FFS, op. This is just ridiculous. So will you "wimp* yourself all the way to the alter? Tell him you can no longer make it and block. You don't owe anyone a single fucking thing.

They don't have to "come up" with anything. The fact they've changed their mind or simply say "no thanks" is more than enough.

Here's your line - "I'm just not feeling it."

Thanks for all the replies. I've cancelled and will definitely work on being more assertive 😁