How often does your man look for sex?

[Cloclo93]

I'm just curious on other people's sex life, I'm 30 my partner is 40, we have been ttc for quite some time so we do have sex during my fertile week but other then that he never looks for sex any other time? I'm just a bit baffled where is his sex drive for the rest of the month.. anywho what is everyone else's sex life like? We do have a 5 year old daughter too.

Since pregnancy never, before then a handful of times a year

Never

1-3 times a week but tbh sometimes randomly if he's got loads on at work it'll be a couple of weeks or even 3 weeks at which point I am normally like "umm is everything ok" and then we will go back to 1-3 times a week. Usually atleast once.

I stopped instigating sex with my dh and said "I'd like you to chase me for a while as I'm exhausted and need a good slow build up to get me properly aroused."

Months went by and nothing!

I was pretty devastated.

Had a sit down with dh to ask why he hasn't instigated with me and he said his sex drive went down after dd was born, he finds it arousing when I chase him and because that's the way it's always been in our relationship.

So I have to instigate it 90% of the time.

He is 100% up for it every time I instigate it though. Which isn't as much as I'd like, because I'm knackered from breastfeeding a 1 year old, day and night.

About two sessions a week where I orgasm 3-6 times would be ideal.

Once a week with the odd random time thrown in for the element of surprise. We're a bit busy and do tend to schedule it so if he's 'looking for it' any other time he'll be lucky to find someone to do it with.

Hardly ever. 2 kids who go to sleep long after us and we’re both knackered! 🤣