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What would you think was wrong with a man

24 replies

BlastedPimples · 16/01/2024 17:03

who did this:

After one reasonable date, kept texting, chatting and FaceTiming on the phone for a couple of days afters. Pleasant enough. Little bit of flirting.

Then he said he had a rash he was worried about and would I mind having a look on FaceTime. I was puzzled and asked if it was a trick. He said of course not and showed it to me. It just looked like a red rash on his leg. Go to the doctor if you're worried, I said.

Then he started masturbating. I was shocked. I asked him if this is something he often does and he just shrugged.

I said I had to go and I put the phone down.

Why on earth did he do that? Had he decided we weren't a match but he was going to get some sort of sexual thing out of our phone calls?

OP posts:
nonmerci99 · 16/01/2024 17:06

To be honest, I’d feel like he had sexually assaulted me in some way, even if electronically. I’m sorry that happened to you. If you met him on an app, I’d report him.

pinkyredrose · 16/01/2024 17:07

Yuk. I'd think he was a sad loser and block.

Adateworsethandeath · 16/01/2024 17:08

Jesus, that's even worse than a dick pic!

Report to the app and block.

WishesPromises · 16/01/2024 17:08

Ugh, men are dogs.

But no, I'm not talking about your Nigel, Brenda.

MonsteraMama · 16/01/2024 17:10

I'd think he was a grot and block him, never to be thought about again.

BlastedPimples · 16/01/2024 17:11

It's just a really strange thing to do, I thought. Tell me he had a rash and then start masturbating.

Pity. I quite liked him up until that point. He was funny and handsome.

Blocked him anyway.

OP posts:
MaggieNextDoor · 16/01/2024 17:15

That's akin to being flashed at on the street. Dirty pig. What a pathetic specimen.

brainworms · 16/01/2024 17:15

What a rotten jizzbag

DatingDinosaur · 16/01/2024 17:27

Think my parting shot would be "You do realise I record all my calls and this one is going straight to the police, you pervert"

And then block. Let him stew in his own jizz juices.

samestyle · 16/01/2024 17:28

That's akin to being flashed at on the street. Dirty pig. What a pathetic specimen.

This, he gets a sadistic kick out of flashing you, report him if you see him on the dating site again.

DatingDinosaur · 16/01/2024 17:32

Oh and "Why on earth did he do that?"

Because that's what weirdos with sex addictions do.

SamW98 · 16/01/2024 17:34

It’s illegal but it’s hard to prove without a video or screenshot.

Did his name start with J? Only I had a bloke from OLD start wanking while we were having a very normal - non sexual - chat on the phone

Starseeking · 16/01/2024 17:36

I'd think he was a flasher, as block him.

Starseeking · 16/01/2024 17:36

*AND block him

SgtJuneAckland · 16/01/2024 17:39

That's a criminal offence OP, report him if you're so minded. He does it because he gets away with it and your horror and lack of control in the situation is what sexually excites him. It will ramp up over time when that stops giving him the satisfaction he needs

BlastedPimples · 16/01/2024 17:40

I thought maybe I'd missed something in the conversation. We had talked about comfort zones and then I thought afterwards that perhaps a rash was a new OLD euphemism for getting out the old man.

OP posts:
CuriousGeorge80 · 16/01/2024 17:43

How horrible. What a pathetic loser. I would report him to the police even if it’s a low chance of anything happening - just so that I had some closure, I think. Hope you are ok

therealcookiemonster · 16/01/2024 17:43

🤢 🤢 🤢

I'm sorry this happened to you.

SamW98 · 16/01/2024 17:48

Definitely report him to the dating app as you won’t be the first or last he’s pulled a stunt like this with

Olika · 16/01/2024 18:07

Oh god that's horrible. And pathetic.

Gremlinsatsupper · 16/01/2024 18:12

I think you should report him. The police may not do anything but if he escalates they have a previous complaint.

Lookingforunicorns · 16/01/2024 18:14

Yeh it's a type of assault.
The best response is something along the lines of:
"Gosh what a tiny knob you have. Most men I've slept with were huge"

Epidote · 16/01/2024 18:32

He is a price isn't he?
God knows why he did it.

anybloodyname · 16/01/2024 18:42

WishesPromises · 16/01/2024 17:08

Ugh, men are dogs.

But no, I'm not talking about your Nigel, Brenda.

Na ... you're right
He's a dog

Love Brenda

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