Given a choice, I wonder whether a lot of women would prefer to live on their ‘own’ whilst remaining in a relationship?

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Many of my friends ( marriages/ long term relationships now over) won’t countenance living with a partner again. They are happy to be in relationships but don’t want to share a house on a full time basis.
just wondering whether lots of women feel this way?

Me neither. I love having my husband around and he pulls his weight. Most importantly, I love his company and presence.

I would not want to either. I would not remarry or live with another man. Maybe on holiday …

I don’t live with my DH. I never have. We don’t even live in the same country. We were both married previously in the traditional sense and neither really enjoyed the living together aspect so we decided we’d just do what feels right for us. We see each other every couple of weeks for the weekend. We go on holidays together all the time. I spend the summers where he lives with my DDs but we rent our own place. We talk every day … I’ve never felt so connected to a person. I was chatting with a friend and she said she’d love to live separately to her DH if she could afford to …

I don't think I'd want to live with anyone again. I've become used to the peace and the feeling that my house is my sanctuary just for me (and the children, but that's different).

this thread made me realise that the roles are probably reversed in my relationship and I am the menace that my poor bloke moved in too quickly and now has to "pick up after" (literally what he said 😂)

in my defence, I do a lot of housework - just in my own time 😂

The funny thing with this thread is that I think it would read similarly if written by most men I know.

Not with my husband @Sweden99

I would totally live on my own in my relationship if I could (ie if he would agree). It would be sooo great to have peace in my own place, but still be in a relationship with my partner, who I love a lot. He never would agree unfortunately!

@AnneKipankitoo , I was including the mix of replies in this!
There are some people who are great housemates together and sometimes they are also married.

I live with my DS 19. My partner lives in his own home. He lives 10 mins away and we see each other 3/4 times a week. Been together 9 years. It works for us. I love my own space so does my partner.

I have been separated for almost three years and our divorce just went through in April of 2023. As of now, I have not started dating, nor do I want to. However, if I ever date, there is no way I would want to live with that person. It took me so long to untangle myself from my ex, there is no way I would put myself in that situation again. I LOVE my freedom and would never compromise it. Of course, another marriage is totally out of question.

I’ve been single for nearly 10 years. I have two teens. I will never, ever live with a man again. I couldn’t bear another adult here with me. When the children are at their Dad’s I love my freedom. I’ve had relationships but I can take or leave them, don’t mind the odd sleepover but no way could I give up my own space for anyone, it’s precious!

When my husband was in the navy, we went ‘married unaccompanied’ for a few years where he lived where he was based and I lived where we lived.. wasn’t happy to start with but I’d moved 400 miles for his base, settled in, kids in school.. only for him to be changed base a further 200 miles away. We did it for 3 years - built a routine, looked forward to time together etc. It took a while to get used to ‘living together’ again when he came out the navy… wouldn’t change it but can see why people prefer living separate

I haven't really ever been in a long term relationship, think longest was 4 months since uni, im now 40.

I wouldnt say I've never do it becuase quite frankly kly if a man shows me particularly at this age that they cannot be decent mature adult who knows how to maintain a home and do their fair share then quite frankly key they don't match my mindset or values and that would be the end of us.

Never again

I have lived alone for just under 20 years now. My house is lovely, just how I want it...no man will ever live in it 🤣

I would love to meet and have a nice partner, however I'd be quite happy for him to live in his house, and me to live in my house as I own mine and have primary age DC.

I really have no desire to live with a man again, mainly because my EXDP was so awful; expected me to tidy up after him, never did the dishes or washing, wouldn't let me get a cleaner until I had to override him as it was too much (at the time I also worked about 60 hours a week in a full time office job) etc etc.

Not that all men are the same, I just can't be arsed to find out!

I've ended my marriage got a new house am moving soon. I cannot wait and will I ever ever live with a man again???? I'd rather be dead

Nope! I adore my husband, love living with him, and feel a bit empty in my heart when he's not around. It's not that we're in each other's pockets, as we have very fulfilling personal and professional lives that aren't intertwined, but there's no one I'd rather start and end my day with, including myself.

My 20 year marriage ended last year, not by my choice. My husband did more than his share of domestic tasks and was generally very easy to live with. I don't think I'd easily find another like him.

I am currently in another relationship which is going very well, but I can't see myself ever living with him, or anyone else.

I'm financially independent so don't need anyone to share living expenses with.

And I'm quite enjoying having everything in my home just the way I want it.

I would . Been single 4 years and can't imagine living with anyone again . I'd be happy with separate living. If I ever meet anyone that is !

Absolutely! I get on very well with DH and enjoy doing fun things with him…but we irritate each other living together day-to-day. It’s very noticeable since we’re both wfh more.

I'd rather live together in house big enough for own bedroom and bathroom and space to each do own thing

I've been single for 5 years and happy that way. I'm dreaming of the day DD moves out...

Easily!
When any thread pops up asking how one would spend a 'life-changing' amount of money, my answer is always the same: buy DP out of the family home / buy DP a home of his own. Every time. DP is a bit of a domestic gift who does lots of cooking, housework and life admin, and aspects of our life together is made very easy and pleasant because of this. But it's just intense to always have someone around. I am invariably blissfully happy in my own company. DP not so much, unfortunately.