Given a choice, I wonder whether a lot of women would prefer to live on their ‘own’ whilst remaining in a relationship?

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Many of my friends ( marriages/ long term relationships now over) won’t countenance living with a partner again. They are happy to be in relationships but don’t want to share a house on a full time basis.
just wondering whether lots of women feel this way?

Yup im in a LAT couple, he has a house with 3 adultren and 2 dogs which is a no for me so we alternate between houses depending on when the youngest is at moms. Works well for us, ideally i would like to live with him but i couldnt move into his house as it would never be "ours" so we continue to run 2 houses. been together almost 4 years and live 5 mins from each other. i cant see myself giving up my house in the near future i enjoy my own space

I love my DP, and the shared mortgage and bills is very helpful, but I often fantasize about living on my own!

All the wardrobes to myself
No over spilling washing basket
Clean counter tops
No beard trimming in the sink
No TV on in every room you walk in
No snoring
Bed to myself

Bliss 😁

FWB works very well for me. Don't want anyone in my space permanently.

@SanFranBear it's not at all crazy. A young person, earning say £22k, is not going to be able to afford to rent a one bed flat, pay council tax, gas, electric, food, travel, phone bill etc in many cities in the UK today.

No, I like living with dh. I had a very independent life before I got married. Living alone all over the world. But it's nice to share space with someone who enjoy being around and who is a good equal partner in the game of living.

Now I'm sure if I lived with someone I hated and we split up because they were intolerable, I might say I never wanted to live with anyone again - because I'd never want to live with anyone like that again, sure.

I like my own company and my own space and I can still get plenty of that living with dh (less so with dc), so I couldn't foresee wanting to live alone by choice.

My DP is very generous with making us both plenty of cups of tea and coffee, cooking us nice meals, and baking bread. I wouldn't want to give that up and appreciate the company after many years living alone.

I don't. I lived in my own for a few years and it was fine. Now live with my husband (no kids) but he's away with work a lot so I never feel like he's always under my feet or anything. I like living with someone. It's nice to share a life and a home.

I think many men would too. I am the messy one in our house and I think DH would prefer to live apart, but still see me daily!

I have found my people When I split from my ex, I announced to my work colleagues (men) "I will never live with another man again!" They looked at my like I had two heads but I absolutely meant it.

I think the longer you spend on your own, the more deeply engraved it becomes. The peace. Quiet. Tranquility. Coming home to a house the same way you left it that morning (clean and tidy!). Not having to think about anyone else when you're coming and going. I love it.

I wouldn't choose living alone over living with my husband. I love living with him and it's obviously practical with us having kids.

If my husband died or left me, I wouldn't live with another partner. It's nothing to do with them being a man and thinking men are bad to live with. I wouldn't live with a woman either. I just would like to live on my own. Another factor is that I have children and wouldn't want a blended family (just my personal choice).

To me it depends on the person one lives with - I used to fantasise about living on my own in my previous relationship and was very excited to move out when I ended it.

Now I wouldn't want to, I enjoy sharing space with my husband - but we both get to have our own space too and we both do genuinely equal share of household chores

I'm happy living with my dh and he's great in the house (I'm disabled and find keeping up with the housework quite difficult, and he doesn't view it as my "job" even though I'm home full time and studying).

But I'd never live with another man, I'd increase my cleaners to 2 days a week!

I do! Best of both worlds.

I've been separated from my live-together ex for 13 years. I haven't had a relationship since 2017, preferring to see ds through to university first.

I'd be happy to live with a partner again, but I want an EQUAL partner. Where tasks are SHARED.

And that's the problem I think. There are too many men who make a horrendous mess, can't be bothered to clear up after themselves, are selfish, controlling, lazy and (increasingly) freeloading.

One bil and one of my friend's husband are both lovely. All my other friends are divorced and sworn to remain single because it is cleaner, safer and far less work.

Not if kids involved no chance, my ex wanted to live separately but we have children!

Really surprised to see most people said yes and I had to go back and reread the OP in case I have missed something.

For me its no. I love my DH and enjoy his company. He is a good husband, good dad and a good man in general. I can not imagine not having him in my life.

I was just saying this to a friend the other day. I have been single for over 10 years and if I was to get into a relationship again I would 100% want to live on my own. I love having my own space and I would hope operating like this would keep date nights more exciting.

As I understand it one of the reasons for the housing crisis is so many more single houses and homes are required because so many divorcees want their own space

I think separate bedrooms are a good idea for a lot of the issues raised here

With my friends maybe because we are older with adult children, there’s no appetite to blend families or pool finances either so living under same roof just doesn’t have same significance.

I agree with PP that the longer you live alone, the more you love your own peace and space. That silence is bliss to me.

I’d be happy to see someone 2/3 times a week and spend nights at each others places but any more than that, I’d be twitching for peace and solitude.

Yes!! I've lived with my oh for 11 years now and I fantasise about living alone! My mind would be a lot clearer and I would feel a lot calmer, he is messy it drives me mad and my home is overwhelming. If we ever split I'm not sure if i would want to live with a man again.

Absolutely this!!

I need to win the lottery and build us a mansion.

I love DH very much, and we have a young family (not 'babies' young). I want us to all live under one roof... but life would be so much nicer if we could each have our own wings with some shared living space!!

Want.

I would much prefer this arrangement. I don't want another person in my/ my kids' space again.

I'm happily married and have been for 20 years but we don't live together full time. I really need my space so we have a little flat we might, that one of our adult children has recently moved into and DH stay there occasionally when we need space. It's absolutely amazing. Our marriage has 100% thrived since we did this around the seven year mark when we were on the brink of separating. We managed to save everything and are totally head over heels in love with each other and I attribute it all to us having our own space. Thank GOD we lived in a cheap area so we could afford to do it.

Should add that if anything happened to my DH I would never ever live with another man again. Absolutely not.