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Wife having affair on solo trip aboard

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NorfolkIan · 16/01/2024 05:49

I rented an apartment in Benidorm for my wife over the winter for 3 months as she enjoys the place while I look after our house with various pets and adult son who has issues. We are n a sexless marriage of over 20 years in our 32 year marriage after a week a guy chatted her up and asked her out, and 3 days later started sleeping with her and living in the apartment, when she told ne over a call, I immediately fly over unannounced to see her. She immediately rang the guy who had popped out to return and collect his stuff and would end it, I flew home 4 days later after we had a lovely time together, only for her to inform me two days later he had moved back with her, what should I do ?

U should add that we had a trial separate 2 years ago when I had a girl friend for a month but did not have sex with while she stayed at home alone, before rekindled our relationship with what I thought was doing well.

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PieAndLattes · 16/01/2024 05:53

End it or accept that you are in a non-monogamous relationship. You’ve had one and now she’s having one. You don’t have sex with each other so you’re really more like flatmates than a couple by now anyway.

TooMuchRedMaybe · 16/01/2024 06:57

Yep, what Pie sad above. There is no point being married to each other. You are just roommates.

Charliewasfired · 16/01/2024 07:02

If you are having sex with other people you clearly aren't "sexless" as individuals, the chemistry/desire is not there between you.

Hbosh · 16/01/2024 10:29

You're in a sexless marriage for 20 years!? What do you expect her to do, just get dried up?
You both should be allowed to have sex outside of the marriage. If that's not what you want, then just get divorced already.

ColorfulHops · 16/01/2024 13:56

Divorce her already

C00k · 16/01/2024 13:59

The marriage is obviously over, just formalise it with divorce proceedings and enjoy life.

Megifer · 16/01/2024 14:00

If its happened as you've said she's taking the absolute piss out of you and you should divorce her.

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