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Red topped chat/dating sites

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 21:08

This is doing my head in. DH never goes anywhere, has questionable hygiene habits
However, he engages with an app/website that has a red runner at the top and every time I ask about it he deflects. Already searched his tablet (don't judge),storage and files . No pics ( I can see the reflection in his gigs) but he's mighty animated when on it. Any ideas? It's making my spideysenses go wild.
Help me ... even if its by process of elimination.

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frillyribbon · 31/12/2023 21:10

Reddit?

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 21:12

I thought that but it looks different to my reddit. Thanks though

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 21:20

I know he's used fcn in the past but that's blue and orange.

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DaughterNo2 · 31/12/2023 21:23

Questionable hygiene habits sounds gross.

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 21:47

Yep... certainly gives me ick sometimes... but is reason for me he isn't meeting,just talking. But on what platform?he hides his pad every time me or the kids are near.🤬

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Wooloohooloo · 31/12/2023 21:52

Dating.com?

ZoomerDinosaur · 31/12/2023 21:58

It might be 4chan? I'm trying to think of the kinds of websites that a man might not want his SO to see.

4chan is similar to Reddit but much more Wild West, and some of the boards (including porn boards) have red headers.

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 22:14

I will have a look at both of these..ty

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 22:38

Doesn't look like either of these. Any more ideas?

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JohnnyWeWorry · 31/12/2023 22:40

In the Mumsnet app you can change the colour scheme, So as I'm reading this thread I have a big red banner along the top? 🤷‍♀️

Dachshund40 · 31/12/2023 22:41

Fetlife has a red banner on the website.

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Whatifitstrue24 · 31/12/2023 23:31

Don't think he's a mumsnetter. I'm going for a disruption tactic ATM... its just pissing me off that I don't recognise the reflection and I wouldn't hide anything 🤬

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SisterMichaelsHabit · 31/12/2023 23:34

Look I know you're hyperfocused on this right now but the fundamental truth here is you don't trust him (and he sounds disgusting) and a relationship without trust is nothing, so why even give this brain space? Just move on!

DatingDinosaur · 31/12/2023 23:56

Some sort of "in private" web browser banner? Might explain why you can't find any history on his tablet?

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Whatifitstrue24 · 01/01/2024 00:10

It's definitely in private and the trouble is boundaries are blurred in places. Talking for titillation fine.... personal chat... not. It's not a website I've seen him use and it's a big boat to rock. I want to know so I can challenge him

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Whatifitstrue24 · 01/01/2024 01:45

Hopeful bump?

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acpk55 · 01/01/2024 07:12

Quora has a red banner,

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