Husband behaviour

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I need to try and get some clarity so I thought I’d post on here ! This is going to be a long one !
I had a procedure done at hospital on Thursday husband came home, fleetingly asked me how I was and that was that! Anyway last night he went to help a friend install a tv and got home at 8.30pm. He made dinner and I felt very woozy, bleeding (normal after the procedure) and very weak. I needed him to help me clean the shower but he said he couldn’t as he felt sick! Fair enough I did it myself even though I eas in bad shape. He got me clean clothes etc. This morning I was in a lot of pain so at 6.30 I woke up he asked if I was ok and then went back to sleep. I went downstairs so as not to wake him and stayed there alone on my phone till 10.45 I went upstairs back to bed and asked him if he could get up to go and get some sanitary pads as I was down to my last 2. He took ages getting up and started replying to his work messages!
Anyeay he finally went came home and made me a sandwich and he’s not checked on me in 5 hours!!! Now I’m fine it’s not the point. he said he had a 3 hour nap as he’s feeling a bit under the weather (the poor luv) I asked him 40 minutes ago if he could fix me dinner and I’m still waiting !!!!!!
Am I being too demanding by expecting a bit of attention ?

Well now you've got to see first hand what a git he is and how little he cares for you. Hard to tell if that's because he lacks capacity to care in a general sense, or if this has been a downwards change.
Either way, it could be wise to check your situation because he does not have your back. Do you have other DC's?

Jesus Christ. He is an absolute ass

And the person who said "bit of a drip feed" in response to that post - what kind of person are you? Do you know the internet might include actual real life humans enduring actual real life?

Without your update (or "dripfeed" - still aghast at that) I would have thought he was a lousy selfish man. I now feel that with spades. I cannot imagine a situation where my dh would treat me like that. and no, he's not perfect. We both get sick, he has been known to be sicker but this ... disgusting.

He refused to wash out blood from the shower - blood that was there because his wife had a procedure that was traumatising and painful. He made her wash it out herself.

I'd be gone OP. gone, gone, gone.

He doesn't sound like a loving and caring partner.

There's no way I'd have left my partners side for at least a few days. Especially taking into consideration the feelings and emotions that go with that type of procedure.

Good, what a useless twat he is! It's so annoying when men say they are ill when they know you are more ill!

You deserve your h being thoughtful and considerate. But he's not.

Wishing you a speedy recovery 💐