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How soon before sex?

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LucyvanderPelt · 13/11/2023 15:25

If you’re dating and looking to have a serious relationship, how long do you wait before having sex? Do you have any rules or is it purely dependent on the person you’re dating? Has waiting, or not waiting, has any impact on the outcome of a relationship? How long does it take you to get the measure of a man (as in, one who says he is interested in a relationship but is only looking for sex)?

I think for me, sex bonds me so that I would be more inclined to overlook pink flags, so I would benefit from waiting and getting to know them better first. I’m interested in others’ perspectives.

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Crossstitching · 13/11/2023 21:49

Personally I date for a full month, real dates, not online chatting. I just can’t trust myself to not, certain weeks in the month I could think sex with Jack the Ripper was a good idea, my cycle messes with me massively

MintGreenPolo · 13/11/2023 22:16

Different for everyone but I definitely won’t be jumping into bed with anyone straight away as haven’t had sex in years so it will be a long time.

gannett · 13/11/2023 22:26

No rules. It's different from person to person and from situation to situation. Sex isn't a tactic nor is it something you give away; it's supposed to be fun. If you don't think it'll be fun for whatever reason, don't have it. If you want it for whatever reason, don't deny yourself.

I slept with DP a few hours after meeting him - I was the one only looking for sex, not a relationship. He's still here 10 years later.

starlightcan · 13/11/2023 22:34

gannett · 13/11/2023 22:26

No rules. It's different from person to person and from situation to situation. Sex isn't a tactic nor is it something you give away; it's supposed to be fun. If you don't think it'll be fun for whatever reason, don't have it. If you want it for whatever reason, don't deny yourself.

I slept with DP a few hours after meeting him - I was the one only looking for sex, not a relationship. He's still here 10 years later.

Sex isn't a tactic nor is it something you give away; it's supposed to be fun. If you don't think it'll be fun for whatever reason, don't have it.

👌👌👌👌

Aerin1999 · 13/11/2023 22:35

gannett · 13/11/2023 22:26

No rules. It's different from person to person and from situation to situation. Sex isn't a tactic nor is it something you give away; it's supposed to be fun. If you don't think it'll be fun for whatever reason, don't have it. If you want it for whatever reason, don't deny yourself.

I slept with DP a few hours after meeting him - I was the one only looking for sex, not a relationship. He's still here 10 years later.

Absolutely!

SeethroughDress · 13/11/2023 22:38

It’s a long time since I’ve been single, but I have sex asap so I know if we’re compatible. Awful to have genuinely to go like someone and discover he’s dreadful in bed, impotent or that we have incompatible styles or kinks.

I slept with my husband on our first date.

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