Partner cheating to a,woman on discord

[Crazygirl20q]

Hi I just need some help partner of 12 years has been chatting to a women am I overreacting or not help me please I'm loosing my mind

I can’t see anything wrong. What are you concerned about?

There’s nothing wrong at all here. Unless there’s stuff you haven’t posted? All looks very platonic so far.

Just hes constantly on hes game never spends any time with me but can make time to tezt a women

Aside from the fact he is speaking to another women who I presume is a stranger there is no sexual talk going on. Are you worried he is leading up to it?

Looks like he's fishing for someone to flirt with, keep an eye on it see if he tries to give his number to take it off discord.

We have been having a rough patch and then I find these messages asked him if he's talked to her in hes mic on game he said no then after yes then just the once but now he cannot remember

See that's my worry aswell why text another women when he i with me I am always downstairs with the kids while he's on hes game upstairs tried to look back on but she is deleted of same with the server so I don't know

There’s nothing wrong with people communicating over a game. That’s normal. But you and your DH not communicating between you is the problem.

I talk to a lot of people on Discord.
We talk about our personal lives in a lot more depth than you show here.
I live with someone I met on Discord! Strictly platonic as well.

I game and have discord however it’s like any other messaging it’s when the messaging and chats become the most important thing and the person in the relationship turns to the online friend more. Bad day at work? they turn to them.

My mate and I are both married as are plenty of the guys I game with, we game a fair bit together. But nothing innappropriate.

There is a line and it can be crossed. How much time is he online gaming compared to say watching tv, chatting to you and doing stuff with you.

I don’t like the way his story is changing. I have gamed for years and women are very cagey about going in to voice comms due to severe harassment. Just this week I joined a group and got booted because the guy did not game with females ( his words) and got treated badly. In all the looking for group posts I have joined over the years at absolute most 5% have been other women, we almost always friend each other as it’s pretty rare. Loads of women game but many just won’t go on mic. If he has spoken to a woman there is no way he would not remember.

See its the video and smack arse that got me like the other night we watched a video we didn't talk to each other because of this and then he went on hesgame after leaving me down stairs

Cross post looks like you two need to communicate as he just games and you spend no time together.

Exactly why say no then keep changing your mind about chatting to her he said it was a group game but I don't know what to believe he even said he wouldn't like me doing it he is always on hes game I'm like the third wheel

I try but it causes an argument then he says find someone else to give you attention