If you were to make a list of your future husbands qualities, what would you include...

[forrestgreen]

(I realise no one is perfect!)

Mine looks like...
◦ Loves me openly
◦ Honest
◦ Faithful
◦ Trustworthy/ trusting
◦ Acts of service
◦ Happy
◦ Funny
◦ Supportive
◦ Caring
◦ Attractive to me
◦ Builds a relationship with my children
◦ Holds my hand, cuddles
◦ Has his own money
◦ Gentleman / manners

If we’re talking ideals I’ll add

Capable of compromise and healthy, respectful communication.
Sexually compatible with me and interested in OUR pleasure
Bond with my dog.

Cares about my feelings and communicates this to me
Takes care of himself - physical/health, heart /souls and space (tidy and organized enough)
Follows through with what he'll say he'll do
Proactive

Excellent with kids

Confident
Funny
Loyal
Supportive
Ambitious
Hardworking
Energetic
Kind
Well-organised
Financially savvy

I'll add "communicator". The strong silent type is not for me.

Kind

As someone going through a separation I would say this...

Thoughtful
Faithful
Caring

I don't want..,

A cheater
A narcissist
An abuse an angry drunk

Open and friendly
Funny
Kind
Skilled
Curious
Strong
Surprising
Dedicated
Slightly wild
Gentle
An English eccentric
Loyal

A genuinely feminist man. (Does not exist)
Honest
Kind
Funny
Intelligent
Good socially with plenty of mates
At least some similar interests to me and shared values.
Warm
Fit
Generous
Committed
Faithful.

Not going to happen is it!! 😁

I disagree about the feminist man. My late father was the biggest feminist I know. He brought me up to believe I could be anything I even want to be. I grew up with brothers and honestly he spent my whole life telling my I could be better than them!

To be rich and unalive

Kindness
Honesty
Lack of selfishness
Optimism
Sense of humour

A grown up, not a man child
considerate
a person willing to always improve, and learn, to be the best version of themselves
They do their fair share
show initiative

Very rich, very old with fragile health and follows all my instructions.

Simple.

is Tim Minchin.

I would like him to be:

Kind
Respectful
Loves/wants only me
Gets on famously with my DD/family/friends/cat
Sexually compatible
Financially responsible
Emotionally aware
Lives across the road from me.

Agree with most of those. I would also add being able to roll a decent spliff and being good at oral sex would be on my list.

And tidy

Good with money
Same moral codes
Same views on child rearing
Highly intelligent

Those were my top ones, there are others, worked out for me and close to 28 years together.

Optimistic and positive (most of the time)
Warm
Loving
Funny
Physical attraction and sexual compatibility
Able to disagree and argue in a healthy way.
Good listener
But also interesting to talk to
Laid back

Able to take care of himself
Independent
Self sufficient
Kind
Good in bed

I did a similar list many years ago but it was things I didn't want in a man. The list was legendary among my mates and was added to from time to time. By the time I met my brilliant husband there were 60 items. Fussy? Moi?

I showed him the list and he correctly pointed out that most of the list described me! 😳

These are lovely to read. Thanks for replying.