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White lies

12 replies

Itiswhatitis2022 · 19/10/2023 15:17

I am a bit cross.
DH (2nd marriage) told me his son wanted to come over on Sunday with his now fiancée to show off her ring. Yawn. Transpires this isn't the case, and dh asked if they want to come over. Why lie? TMI alert. He told me recently that he had cut himself "down there" shaving. I found a metal cock ring in his drawer that had dried blood on it. So am now thinking it was this that caused the cut. Another lie. Not sure how to feel.

OP posts:
bracemyselfagain · 19/10/2023 15:20

I genuinely feel for you on this one.
Right now its niggling annoyance, but these little fibs add up, and soon become infuriating.
Talk to him ASAP.

Out of curiosity; he used the cock ring with you? This isn't something you've unknowingly stumbled upon?

tigereyes10 · 19/10/2023 16:18

Why has he been using a metal cock ring if it wasn't used with you? They aren't necessarily a "solo play" toy. My apologies if I've got the wrong end of the stick and it was used with you

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Itiswhatitis2022 · 20/10/2023 13:19

Hey no, he didn't use the cock ring with me. He does sort himself out shall we say. We do have sex, but I suffer badly with vertigo so have to be careful as one wrong move and I start spinning.

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Coldinscotland · 20/10/2023 13:22

How is a cock ring and an engagement ring connected in anyway?

McIntire · 20/10/2023 13:23

white lies turn into dirty black ones ime

However, your ‘yawn’ comment in your OP is screaming out at me

scoobycute · 20/10/2023 13:24

Coldinscotland · 20/10/2023 13:22

How is a cock ring and an engagement ring connected in anyway?

🤣🤣🤣

Iusedtoworkthere · 20/10/2023 13:25

Coldinscotland · 20/10/2023 13:22

How is a cock ring and an engagement ring connected in anyway?

They're not. It's the white lies about these incidents that the OP is raising.

Iusedtoworkthere · 20/10/2023 13:26

Oh. Sorry if that was a joke @Coldinscotland

Littlemisslonley · 20/10/2023 13:30

Little fibs are often the day day equivalent to pure blant lies which happen less often. In my experience if you can tell lies like this then you can tell any sort of lie

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 20/10/2023 13:33

Yawn. Transpires this isn't the case, and dh asked if they want to come over. Why lie?

Well with the "yawn" comment it sounds like you're not particularly welcoming of your stepson and future step-DIL so perhaps he felt that saying "I've invited my son and his fiancée over" would have got a shitty reception from you.

Can't make head nor tail of the cock ring situation.

IncompleteSenten · 20/10/2023 13:35

Maybe the same attitude towards them that led you to type out yawn is the reason he lied about that.

jiinglebells · 20/10/2023 13:37

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 20/10/2023 13:33

Yawn. Transpires this isn't the case, and dh asked if they want to come over. Why lie?

Well with the "yawn" comment it sounds like you're not particularly welcoming of your stepson and future step-DIL so perhaps he felt that saying "I've invited my son and his fiancée over" would have got a shitty reception from you.

Can't make head nor tail of the cock ring situation.

100% the vibes I got from the OP!

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