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So how would your DH/DP feel if you went out for lunch with a male colleague?

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ceebee74 · 06/03/2008 20:50

Would they be jealous or not at all bothered?

Have arranged to go out for lunch with a manager who I work closely with and Dh says he is not bothered (but I secretly think he is ).

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LyraSilvertongue · 06/03/2008 23:18

DP would not be jealous in the slightest.
He goes out to lunch with female colleagues and it doesn't bother me at all.

mumblesmummy · 07/03/2008 18:45

My DP would probably be bothered. But I like that he is.

oops · 07/03/2008 20:33

Message withdrawn

Katgirl · 07/03/2008 20:36

I would not be bothered at all. I socialise with the opposite sex and it means nothing so have to believe the same of him.

janeite · 07/03/2008 20:45

I go out for lunch with male colleague every week. DP not bothered at all - just jealous of what we've eaten (usually chips in the local cafe!).

cory · 09/03/2008 20:40

My dh not bothered either. Be difficult to do my job if I couldn't eat a meal with a colleague.

Moominpappa · 09/03/2008 20:56

Erm, fine. DW has fequently eaten out with colleagues, even one considered Adonis-like by her team.

We have 100% trust on both sides, life wouldn't work otherwise!

motherinferior · 09/03/2008 20:59

Adonis colleagues

That would be a no. He doesn't get bothered if I go for a drink after work with male friends either. Including my ex.

Why would he be bothered? Presumably if you were having an affair you'd book a room in a hotel and claim you were having lunch with a female friend, wouldn't you?

Quattrocento · 09/03/2008 20:59

Gosh this is an extraterrestrial question.

I have lunch with male colleagues and male clients around three times a week. Dinner around once a week. Hardly ever breakfast but breakfast meetings can and do happen.

Why on earth would your DH be jealous?

Unless of course you want him to be?

B1977 · 09/03/2008 21:04

Never even crossed my mind that my DH would be bothered bit having said that I have a good friend who split with her ex-partner because he was jealous when she went out for lunch and dinner with male colleagues and clients and I could totally understand that could be a deal-breaker in a relationship, he wanted a "wifey" not a wife IMO

B1977 · 09/03/2008 21:04

but not bit sorry

VanillaPumpkin · 09/03/2008 21:09

I am a SAHM so no work colleagues, but I did meet up with my first ever boyfriend for lunch a couple of weeks ago. He wasn't bothered...

bubblepop · 09/03/2008 23:07

i don't think mine would like it or be too happy about it

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