Is this normal ?

[outofcontrol4yrold]

Im 31 married with 3 kids and currently can't stop thinking about a guy i know vaguely.

I have fantasies about him and us ( sex) I wonder if he finds me attractive ( unlikely)

I would never cheat with him nor would i want to. Although it would be nice if he found me attractive.

is this normal?

Fantasies are quite normal at times, it would be dangerous to find out if he finds you attractive , as it will be on your mind even more, messaging him or contacting him via friends would be awkward if it got out.i am sure you will have loads of things he would find attractive.

Yes it’s quite normal. Is your hubby not giving you enough attention?

I have no plans to pursue this.
Our sex life isn't the best so probably that's why i guess

Anyone else? i feel really creeep cos of it as he would never even look my way. i feel like a fucking teenager:(

Erm no I never have so not normal and can't say any of my girl friend say about it and we are all pretty open and talk about loads lol

Of course it’s normal to find someone attractive and fantasise about them, but if you’re in a relationship already you should probably tend to that rather than expending mental energy on someone else. That can only detract from your marriage if you focus on it.

Do you and your H get any time alone together, is he attentive in ways other than in bed?

I agree

Is that how you decide if something is 'normal', then? Whether you've done it yourself or not?