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FABSWINGERS

14 replies

JenMc6690 · 07/09/2023 14:34

Hi
I caught my boyfriend on this site, he was on it before we met but promised to delete his account. I stupidly went looking and he has pictures on there and is looking for various things. If I confront him he's going to say he's watching porn but I'm sure there's something more. I need solid proof. Has anyone been in this situation please 🥺

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8990m · 07/09/2023 14:37

Make a fake fab swingers and message him on there to arrange a meet
that’s how my best friend caught her partner out

Calistano · 07/09/2023 14:56

What a sleaze, doesn't matter if he met anyone, the intention is there.

comedownwithme · 07/09/2023 15:06

You don't need solid proof of anything. It's not a court of law, just your choice whether to stay with him or not. The sensible option is not. I wouldn't even hang around to give him the chance to make excuses if it were me...

CreationNat1on · 07/09/2023 15:11

Just move on, no need for the vigilante outing. His motives are irrelevant, he is lurking about seeking something external to your relationship.

itsmyp4rty · 07/09/2023 15:13

You have solid proof that he lied about deleting his account. What more do you need?

somethinghastochangesoon · 07/09/2023 15:21

Why can't he watch porn on a porn site?

If he's watching things people are sending him on fab swingers isn't that videos of themselves so it's interaction.

I'd make a fake profile but really I think you will always worry about it because he's lied already about deleting it.

AuntieEsther · 07/09/2023 15:23

Most men use fab to watch videos of real people's home made porn, not to actually meet women. Most men never get to meet anyone despite trying very hard!
However, he lied to you, which is not acceptable. Just tell him you know about it.

Seaoftroubles · 07/09/2023 15:24

Sorry but he's lied, and he's looking for sex on a site for swingers. Thats all the proof you need.
Get rid of him asap and get yourself tested for STD's.

Pinkbonbon · 07/09/2023 15:54

No mattet how solid your proof is, he's still going to try to lie, bullshit and weasel his way out of it.

You dont need to prove to anyone that their shitey behaviour is shitey in order to leave them.

You don't owe him that. You'll only be foung yourself a disservice.

Tell him you've decided you're off and 'you know why'. He'll get it.

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JenMc6690 · 07/09/2023 16:01

Thank you
My heads up my asse with it all at the moment

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JenMc6690 · 07/09/2023 18:04

I'm too scared to. I don't know how it all works

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JenMc6690 · 07/09/2023 18:05

I know, it's taking me a bit to come to terms with it tbh x

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JenMc6690 · 07/09/2023 18:13

Can you watch people having sex live?

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SpringleDingle · 07/09/2023 18:16

You can watch live sex acts yes. Also no bloke signs up to fab not to chase unicorns! If you make an account locating yourself in your area he will most likely come to you but you will definitely be FLOODED with offers and pictures of dicks. Personally I think you should just duck out of this now. He is trying to cheat.

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