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Ex's friend contacted me out of the blue

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Ellaineeeee · 21/08/2023 17:31

Recently my ex's friend contacted me out of the blue after not speaking for a long time (years). He was very inquisitive about whether I was still working in the same company, and more particularly in where I was living these days (country-wise). Why would he randomly message me asking such pointed questions?

OP posts:
LemonTT · 21/08/2023 17:36

He is

  1. interested in your line of work, maybe wants a recommendation or advice.
  2. thinking about moving to where you are, maybe also looking for a job and recommendation
  3. interested in you and or any of the above.
hoophoophooray · 21/08/2023 17:36

I would say he's after a job

AbraKedavra · 21/08/2023 18:05

He's a serial killer.

GLORIAGloriarse · 21/08/2023 18:08

Were you close before?

Could be trying to make a work connection. Possibly applying for a job at the office in question and wants to know if you have any info/ contacts.

Aylestone · 21/08/2023 18:09

Ask him? It’s not hard to message back ‘can I ask why you’re asking?’

category12 · 21/08/2023 18:10

Is he being nosy on behalf of your ex?

DosCervezas · 22/08/2023 10:09

If you are over your ex, moved on and want no further contact or involvement I'd be very uncomfortable answering these questions and would ignore the contact.
You are under no obligation to reply. If unwanted messages continue it's harassment!

TwoShyShy · 22/08/2023 10:45

Interested in your work. You could ask him why the sudden interest.

QuintessentiallyScottish · 22/08/2023 10:53

category12 · 21/08/2023 18:10

Is he being nosy on behalf of your ex?

This.

It's possible the friend could be your ex's flying monkey.

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