My partner and I sex life has gone abit downhill. Health issues etc. last night I asked her to have sex as we haven’t got ages and she loves sex and she said she wasn’t feeling up to it. That’s fine. I had BPD so my head reels and an orgasm helps me escape for a while. So when she was going off to sleep I masturbated. Quietly and calmly with no bother. I invited her and she said no. She’s rather wait until she wasn’t tired to have connected sex. Now she’s mad at me for doing it. What do I do? 😢