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[Palacelife]

If you were talking to a new partner and said that your ex had talked you out of a boob job and they said ‘that’s a shame’ what would you think?
they say it’s a shame they stopped you doing something you wanted to
bit stung a little!

He means he thinks you’d look better with a boob job. Bin him

^ that

Ugh, what a dickhead.

Yep, this.

Urgh

Agree.

Yeah I'd be annoyed and pretty sure I'd get the instant ick and bin him.

If he instantly followed up with "because it's your body and he doesn't get to tell you what to do" he's saveable. If not, he's not.

I do wonder why you were having this conversation though. Sounds like a fishing trip. I mean what IS the right response?

I can’t remember how but we’d been talking about lap dancing clubs and I’d mentioned that my ex had dated a dancer once. We then got on to boob jobs and how in that environment it would be hard not to, that particular girl had regretted it etc
so it was a wider conversation.

I know how I would feel about this comment, but how do you feel?

@MrsTerryPratchett i had a similar conversation with someone who’d told me they’d changed their mind on the way to an op, I said I thought they were more attractive for not having anything done
but it’s a tricky one I guess as it is up to the individual

@growgrowinggrown actually not too bad. I was a little upset when I thought what others have but it’s a part of a wider pattern of things that make me a bit uncomfortable and I’m not sure if I want to be with someone who has that effect on me (whether it’s my fault or not)