Is he mean or what it my fault for laying my cards out?

[itsonlylovelivelove]

So dating a new guy and to avoid awkwardness I told him that I preferred equality re finances but liked the idea also of treating each other now and again with little gestures and surprises.
All went well ,
Splitting costs of hotels , dinners etc .
I then bought a round of drinks for us and we went to bed afterwards. The next day we had lunch and he said he'd get it it . I said I would. He then said.. oh just Revolut me half.
I thought after buying the expensive Roy d of drinks the previous night.
Now I have the ick.
Is this a me problem ?

I’d say he has the ick about you

When someone offers to pay as its their round, the correct response is, "Thank you," not to offer t0 pay instead.

His suggestion that you paid him half back was him trying to find a solution to the situation where you both wanted to pay for lunch.

He didn't want to let you pay because you'd paid the night before.

He didn't want to insist on paying because you'd already told him equality was important to you.

He was trying to second guess what you'd think was fair; possibly working out if the my turn/your turn pattern restarted each day; didn't want to step in your toes or appear to be an overbearing man paying for the li'l lady.

I mean, talk about setting someone up to fail!

100% a you problem

He offered to pay. You said no so he split it. What was he supposed to do? Fight you for it?

What exactly has given you the ick? He's done what you wanted

You sound quite hard work

Maybe you wanted him to mess it up so you could come on here and moan.

It’s such a bloody performance, isn’t it? I’ll pay, no I’ll pay over every bloody thing. And then miffed when they don’t keep the fake argument going until you pretend submit.

This is a you problem, yes. You're saying one thing and then doing the opposite.