Soo I'm on a spicy dating site... and yesterday I got an upfront message from a guy asking if I wanted him basically.
I instantly recognised him (we went to school together) and I know he is a in a long term relationship.
He wrote on his profile he's been on the site before so this isn't a one off and his account is ID verified so I know its definitely him.
Should I tell his girlfriend? I'm so torn because technically it's none of my business and I'd respect that.
But I was that girl!!! Being cheated on for months while none the wiser, while planning a future with that man, while he and others kept this sorid secret from me. I found out because a friend of a friend of the girl he cheated with, thought I should know so she messaged me out the blue one day and told me everything she knew. I was so grateful to her because I knew damn well the cheater would never have told me, heck I could still be with him now none the wiser. I'm over him but not fully over what happened so I don't want to act emotionally with this. I just keep thinking if this was me, I'd want to know...but I can't hold others to the expectations so I'm just stuck on what to do.
I don't know him or his girlfriend personally and I doubt they'd remember or know me tbh but I can't help but feel like she atleast needs to know so she can make an informed decision on being with him or not. So so torn
(Also to note, I'm not wanting to tell her so I can have a chance with him, definitely not Nor am I wanting to stir up any unnecessary drama)