Living a double life

[Emotionallyexhaustedmum]

I found out my long term partner of 14 years has been having a whole other life for the last 10 months. I thought he was away working and he has been chasing around the world after a women and lying and gaslighting to me. He went to Australia. Was even in the country in Oxford and London. He constantly told me I was crazy for suggesting something was going on.

we have two young children he has barely seen in that time. I’m so devastated he would pick another women over seeing his own kids.

While realising this may sound trite - she (or they) is welcome to him! You and DC won't really miss someone who hasn't been there for 10 months, lies about everything and ignores you all, surely?

Oh what a shock I hope you are ok.

Don't overthink why he'd rather be there than with you and the kids. Nothing you think will get in his mindset cos he's a piece of shit and your not so you cannot relate to his thoughtlessness.

There would be no going back for me for this get a solicitor to draw up a child arrangements order and leave him. Don't give this taker a moment more of your life.

You are both right. The hardest thing is trying to get my head around how I could spend all these years with a person I thought I knew. It’s scary.

He is now looking to move to the states.

he has shown absolutely no empathy or self awareness. It’s almost terrifying.

@Emotionallyexhaustedmum how are you doing now? x