Anyone like this with sex?

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I don’t have the highest sex drive but it’s there. I’m attracted to my partner, I want to have sex with him. We don’t live together so I do think about wanting it when I don’t see him.

Yet when I do, my sex drive just isn’t there and then I start to get stressed because I want to have sex with him but something mentally blocks me from getting in the mood. This has happened with every boyfriend in the past. I am attracted to them, I want sex but when it comes to it, something stops me.

Is anyone else like this ? I do have sex with my partner but not often. I stress about it in every relationship and I don’t know what to do.

Are you on hormonal contraception ?
Do you masturbate ?

No I’m not. I came off it a few years ago.

and I do

Have a look at Jenny Keane on Instagram. She has workshops and online resources which a super useful for this sort of thing.

@jamaisjedors i will do! Thanks

Body image issues?

Past traumatic experiences?

I’m the same way. I fantasize about having sex with my partner but usually once it gets to actual act something turns me off and the desire is gone.

Yes very weird. I get that.
I think you just have to push through TBH because you usually are happy you did after.

OP, you do not mention your age or anything about upbringing, perhaps rightly so. But were you perhaps taught that sex was wrong or maybe considered dirty? Early poor attitudes to sex can cause a lifetime of difficulties.

With apologies if I have the wrong end of the stick here.