Help needed please… me and my partner have been together for 4 years living together for 3 we have 2 children together aged 2 and 3 week old.
my partner had 3 children with his previous relationship before me. His ex and children live nearby to me.
he goes round his ex house every day straight from work to feed bath and put his children to bed, he also goes round all day on Saturday from 10am until 7.30pm and me and our kids don’t see him in this time.
this situation has been happening since we got together and whenever I question it it turns into an argument.
i feel like he spends too much time around his ex and he says it’s not about his ex it’s about his kids but I feel he should be seeing his kids in the house he lives in (my house) but his ex won’t allow this because she doesn’t want his kids anywhere near me.
his children haven’t met their younger half siblings because his ex won’t allow it. She rings him up at 10pm some nights to tell him one of the kids has gotten out of bed and he goes round to put them back in bed.
we argue every time I bring it up I tell him she’s taking the piss out of him and he says it’s his problem not mine and that I should keep out of it. He is too afraid to stand up to her, as she uses the kids as weapons and he can only see them on her terms or not at all.
I love him and I know he loves me but I am sick of the situation and need help to have a normal relationship with him.
i understood at first she was jealous and bitter but 4 years on and the situation hasn’t changed