Long story short husband of 20 years cheated and we split up have been separated for a year. At the time he told me it was all in my head I was mental, I needed help, was making things up and overeacting and needed sectioning and that he feared for his children cos I was clearly nuts …this was despite being presented with evidence. It then transpired towards the end of last year I was correct and he admitted I was right but by that point he had managed to convince me I had issues and getting the truth actually made me feel worse, confused about what was truth or lies and also that I’d been made a complete mug out of by him and this woman as we had sort of become friends for the sake of the kids by this point, he’d been with us at Christmas, made things easy for him etc.
he says that it’s completely over and I’ve said if he’s still with her/in communication with her I can’t be friends. Problem is I’ve become completely obsessed with it all again, convinced he’s speaking to her and making me look silly again. I don’t know why I can’t get over it, we aren’t together, I don’t want to be with him, I wouldn’t care if he was with anyone else at all but if it’s her I think I’d feel completely broken probably cos once again I’ve been convinced I’m mad and nothings going on.
I realise this sounds like the ramblings of a mad woman and this is what I have been told I am, I can accept whatever is said to me here I just really need some help to get over it and stop caring cos I’m exhausted feeling anxious about it and making myself look like a desperate loser in the process cos I’m sure that’s making his day.