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I want my sex life back...

3 replies

YOMO · 03/02/2008 13:32

Hi I feel a bit embarrassed as I haven?t really made any friends on mn yet. But I really need some advice and am to embarrass to ask hv or gp. Had dd (PFB) 10 months ago. Had awful birth (wont bore you with the details) but ended up having forceps and as a result was bruised and needed loads of stitches.

DP and I have had sex only a couple of times since as I am a) not feeling sexy as put on to much weight and b) it still hurts and I often bleed after.

Is this normal or is it because I am not relaxed? How can I get my sex life back on track because I really miss it and we are talking of ttc again?

Help please

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luckylady74 · 03/02/2008 13:35

is it lots of blood or just a little spotting? if it's the former then i'd go to the doctor. i found alcohol always helped with feeling fat and nerves.

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YOMO · 03/02/2008 13:50

Thank you luckylady74. It is only spotting. I will test the alcohol advise forth with... well when dd is in bed anyway..

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dividedselfridgesxmaswindow · 03/02/2008 13:53

That's probably pretty good advice if you are tensing up. I don't know if this helps at all but I personally spot a little bit whenever I have sex after a period of abstinence, regardless of whether I'd just had one of my 3 babies!

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