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Husband had an affair, told me, we split then spent a few years back and forth. It came to light that during our “off” periods he went back to her and she had no idea about him coming back to me etc. They’ve now being together for 1 year and during that time he’s attempted to come back to me once, which I said no so he scurried back to her.

Should I tell her?

Bad advice. Then everyone will know your business but no-one will tell her. People rarely do

No
your child comes first
and telling her will cause a row that will inevitably impact thing

how did he manage this !?
is he amazingly charismatic

or just really good at targeting women with low
self esteem

Think it’s the last one re self esteem !!!
Heard on the grapevine that she handed her notice in today, so that’s a relief in a way! But I think you are all correct. Best to stay quiet.

I'd get one of your office friends to tell her therefore nothing comes back on you. Every woman needs to know their reality.

She definitely needs to be told. No one deserves to live a lie.