sex after birth.....it just doesn't impress me anymore

[ruthmollymummy]

i know it's a bit mean and i'd never say it to DH but although he's a "good sized man" (excuse me!) it just doesn't make a lasting impression if you get my meaning - and surely he can tell?

it seems neither of us really want to have sex anymore so i dunno why it bothers me, i wish i did want sex but i dont - not that it matters cos neither does he. but wtf - I'm only 21!!

OK, how long since you gave birth? Because having a new baby around tends to put sex a long way down most people's list of priorities, so don't worry about this too much.
Secondly (and please don't be offended if I have misinterpreted this, I don't mean to offend here) if you are implying that you can't 'feel' him like you used to then you may need to do some Kegel exercises. Ie when you go for a wee, tighten up the muscles to stop the flow, then release; do this tighten-and-release lots even when you are not atually weeing. If you find that you are leaking a bit or you feel really baggy round the fanjo area, have a word with your MW or GP, as this is very common and there is a fair bit that can be done.

It took a while for my muscles to 'come back together'

Before that I wouldn't notice if a postbox slipped up there

Very normal RMM - also you are probably knackered and worrying about baby - not the best aphrodisiac!
It will get better - how old is your baby?