ahem, want some, ahem private advice..

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I am a mum to 2 young kiddies

After an abusive(including sexually) first relationship I am now happily married

my husband was a virgin so has no hang ups sexually

I am only just surfacing into thinking sex is ok and starting to enjoy it

but

I feel silly and def not sexy, I am plump and feel even worse due to having two sections which have left me an odd shape

I would like to be more sexually fulfilled, can you give me some advise please

I am not a troll but have name changed due to feeling embarrassed

aw dont you just love mumsnet where else could you be so blunt!

I fell a right plonk being sexually persuasive/assertive, I havent really tried it but maybe I need to come into this century so to speak as I do have a lovely Dh and im sure my terrible body imagine is far worse than I actually am IYKWIM Though I do need to stop eating rubbish that would help!

I am just sexually shy its ridiculous isnt it!

thanks so muchI may just go now and try some of your advice oh and change my name back

thanks for coming along side me to advice much appreciated indeed

merry christmas to you!

No worries, go enjoy yourself and have a very merry christmas!

I had a really bad bout of depression recently and at the height I actually believed that my DH was perverted for fancying me. But I have sorted that and although I am still very plump I believe him when he says I have great knockers.

Hope the advice helps. I feel a bit more self-conscious about my body (30 weeks pg) but DH loves it! I see larger thighs, he sees lovely soft flesh that really turns him on!

You say "he hasn't seen a true beauty". YOU are his true beauty. DH finds me attractive even though i think my upper lips needs doing.

Well done on posting. I think that Mumsnet is invaluable for enabling us to ask questions and have open discussions about personal matters that we may be reluctant to raise face-to-face.

You will learn together how to make your sex life amazing. It's like learning to drive: takes time but totally worth it and fulfilling!