Tomorrow I am going to my sister's house for lunch with the rest of my family, to do something different as it will be the first year without Nan.
I mailed her in the week to ask what time she wanted us, and she replied mid-day, unless we wanted to go to the Christingle service, which starts at 11am.
I am spending Christmas Eve & Christmas Day with my family, and ex H will be around as he is still considered a big family member my the rest of my family, who refuse to accept my new relationship. I will do this for the boys though, and to keep the peace.
Tonight ex H has the boys, so I arranged to go over to stay at my boyfriend's house (he lives 25 miles away), as I won't see much of him over the Christmas period, and planned to get home for around 9.30 - 10 am.
Today I received a text from mum to say we were to be at my sister's for 9.30 am (she lives a 45 min drive from us), and I told her this was too early, but I would meet them there around lunchtime. I then text my sister the same message.
I then received a text from mum, saying "I thought we were going to try to make things different because of Nan, but maybe not"
My sister then text saying I had upset mum & we were all meant to be looking after her, so mum had obviously been on the phone, and my sister was cross with me!
I have now said I would meet them at the church at 11am as I was fed up of being the bad one, but I am not getting there for 9.30am.
Mum hasn't got back to me, and I know the whole family will be angry with me - especially dad.
I have been very upset, and am missing my Nan loads too.
I don't think I will be able to handle the next few days.