Dp advice needed

[bellalou1234]

I've been with my dp 13 years live together. Both have kids none together. Weve had our ups and downs over the years. Never he was cheating recently. I found a message on his phone saying night babe xxx from a young colleague from work on xmas morning. I asked him about it xmas night, said was a jokey thing asked for a look in his phone her refused. Hes secretive with phone. Always online with WhatsApp. Working extra shifts. Lost weight. I'm not being paranoid am I?

Don't let the person at work know you're on to it.
Watch and wait.

If he is at work, you can just say you can't find the front door key, has he accidentally taken it with him? Then you find it later on, obviously.

Ravenmum yes that's a good idea about the key. Hes made up an elaborate story of needing to pop into work on Friday. Aaargh thanks everyone.

I've had the house valued he says we havent been getting on for years.. wish hed said years ago.. swears blind theres no one else.. hes online in whatsapp late at night early in the morning and throughout the day when alone..I'm so fed up.