Is this a strange thing to say?

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If a man has been cruelly discarded after some years of emotional abuse eg isolating from Family, taunting, insults etc got a phone call out of the blue after a year , from the woman who finished with him ; just to tell him that there's a rumour going that they were back together, would you think that was strange and why do you think she would have done that? The woman in question doesn't
Contact the ex as a rule, only when she needs something and up to recently, he obliges until he blocked her . Thanks for reading . Any opinions appreciated .

The abuser will attempt to hoover the victim back in whenever there no narcissistic supply more readily available. Block & ignore. No good can come of it.

*whenever there is no

She hasn't been getting enough attention elsewhere so has resorted to contacting him for attention.

She'll use him for attention until she gets a fresh, steady supply elsewhere. In which case, she'll pop him back on the shelf (she will stop contacting him again) until the time comes when she runs out of attention elsewhere and then she'll pick him back off the shelf again.

Seriously? Do
You really think that this is why she made that call? It seems strange especially when she treated him so badly. Jeez people can be strange !

It's hard to say without knowing more about the people involved. What were the reasons why she making contact with him since she left him? Do they have kids together? Why was he obliging?

Also, a little confusing..

At the start of your post, you say "..got a phone call out of the blue after a year , from the woman who finished with him.."

This suggests he has not heard from her for a year.

You then go on to say.. "the woman in question doesn't contact the ex as a rule, only when she needs something and up to recently, he obliges until he blocked her."

This suggests she has been in contact quite recently until he blocked her, and she then followed up with the phone call?

Which is it?

He didn't hear from her for a year after the split and then recently she got back in contact six months later for advice that she could have googled/ asked many people in her circle, for. No children . Long relationship of 6 years .

He blocked her after the last phone call when it was suggested to him that he was being used for free professional
Advice .

Does anyone else have any thoughts on this please ? I'm
Perplexed .thanks

Maybe she wanted to suss out whether it was him who started the rumour?

She said she just wanted him to
Know that the rumour was going in case he heard it back And that was the phone call.. He didn't engage with her besides laugh and say goodbye .

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He blocked her after the last phone call when it was suggested to him that he was being used for free professional Advice .

“It was suggested to him” by you presumably? Is this your partner and his ex? She sounds like she is fishing for his attention but tbh if he’s blocking her because you’re telling him to, and not off his own bat i’d say it sounds like he’s not averse to providing it.

Ok thanks

I'd guess that she was fishing, either for attention as other posts have said or to see his reaction of the thought of them getting back together.

So this is your DP and his ex?
Have you asked him why he thinks she has gotten in contact again and what he makes of the comment? Has he heard any rumours?

He could have blocked her ages ago if he had no interest in hearing from her and she is as nasty as you've described ...but, as a PP has already pointed out.. he didn't block her off his own back. It sounds like he was leaving the door open for her to be able to make contact.