Can't stop comparing sex with Ex to OH

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Me and OH met 9 years ago we separated for 18 months been back together for around a year we have one DD who is now 7. I'm 27 so very young when I met OH started seeing a 43 year old approx 6 months into the separation the sex was amazing he would kiss me for hours go down on me give me so many orgasms. He didn't last very long but always made sure I was well taken care of.
My OH does "edging " and I'm sick of it he pumps away doesn't touch my clit no kissing but expects oral on him. I've tried to talk to him he changes once then goes back to how he was.
Honestly the sex is so robotic and my sex drive has died. I love him and we generally get on I really want us to work but the sex is dire.

For me the whole point of edging it that someone else does it to you, it’s like a power thing and can be very sexy. ..but what you describe him doing sounds so fucking boring. He’s basically masturbating with you near by.

Good point. Edging is when someone else does the stop-start to you, for your pleasure. Not when someone uses you as a wanksock for their own.

Another vote for no sex until he agrees to listen and learn. Life is too short for that!
If he isn't willing to consider your needs, then I would leave.

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He needs to read this.^^

His kind of sex is demoralising and does nothing for a woman.

I couldn't have got back with him after the reason he broke up...if you gain weight again...he's gone. I wouldn't like to live like that.