The divorce is mutual agreement and underway as they drifted apart and stayed together for kids. However, a divorce is stressful and they have things to sort out.
We've dated 6 months now, I wont sleep with him as he's still legally married and his grown up children don't know about me who he's very close to.
Hes definitely got feelings for me, we hold hands, talk, laugh, and I trust him. He puts me under no pressure for sex although I'm sure he wants too!
I've told him I'm not interested in the divorce details although he said it is stressful. It wont be finalised until spring.
I told him at the start I'm dating because I want marriage, not for the sake of it and it may not even be him, but I dont want to be the rebound etc.
I'm being patient as I'm aware his divorce will be hard, but I dont feel like a priority in his life. At 6 months I should feel a bit more.
He hasnt said he loves me, but he listens to me, remembers what I say, holds my hand etc and just how he kisses me.
He rarely mentions his ex, he said it was like they were divorced anyway.
My fear is that he'll get through divorce and say he doesnt wany to marry again, or we split as he needs space, or I'm the transitional woman. This has happened to me before and although I've learned from this, my worry is that I'm choosing men who arent available for commitment due to my abusive past.
What should I be looking for?what are the red flags?