He punched the door and slapped the walls

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Because he thought I scratched the front of his printer. Last week I touched his arm to stop him from marching off and he threw his arm so hard it twisted my hand. Then he scratched my neck when he yanked off my head phones. He hasn’t actually hit or punched me but he’s extremelt aggressive and unreasonable. I’m in absolute tears

He is a violent bully. Get rid of him before it gets far worse, because it definitely will.

So sorry OP. He’s a violent dickhead with anger issues. You are in danger. Please just leave and get to a safe place. Do you have children? Do you have support?

Who is he? husband, partner? Have you been together long and live together. He sounds very aggressive with a nasty temper. Does he ever explain his behaviour or bother apologising.

Run, and never look back. My ex was like this, trust me it gets worse

Who is he to you?
But your in a extremely dangerous situation! Please seek help and get him to leave! Tell family and get support!

He is physically and mentally abusing you. Please get yourself away from him.

Partner of 15 yrs. 3 kids and I’ve just taken 2 of them to my mums. The other one wanted to stay. My mum is leaving for two weeks so I will be staying here.

Why can't you and all of your children stay at your mum's?

Don't go back.
Speak with a solicitor about next steps (eg: selling the home and divorce process, for when you are ready). You can jopefully claim child maintenance from him once you are settled somewhere.

Punching walls ect is textbook sociopath behaviour. Chances are he is something along those lines. It is an intimidation tactic and considering he has no qualms putting his hands on you, it is likely it could escalate to more extreme violence.

They are usually worse if they manage to convince you to go back. Because they want to punish you for leaving your first time.

Well done you for getting out. Stay out!

Glad you left; see a solicitor. Punching walls is basic code for punching you. Unsubtle but effective.

Glad you are safe at your mums.

I trust he’s never shown aggression in front of dc and it’s just you who gets to witness these outbursts, ie are the other kids safe with him?

He has started doing it more often over the last year or so. Being aggressive and angry. Always in a bad mood and just being mean for no reason. I asked him to stop multiple times because I would take action. He didn’t believe me obviously

glad you're gone but is the other dc safe with him?

You need to protect your children and yourself. Please leave him.

Just a matter of time until he slaps and punches you and the kids.

How old is your remaining DC? They can often stay out of FOG and loyalty. Be careful OP.

Sorry - I should have added FOG = Fear, Obligation, Guilt.

I'd be yelling the kids 'your dad put his hands on me in an aggressive manner and it is never ok for a man to hurt his wife so I left and I wont be going back. You can stay with dad or me and know that we both love you. But daddies' behaviour was unacceptable and wrong so I wont be going back'. The sooner you tell them this the better so that be cant get in his own fake version and make you seem like the bad guy.

*telling

Are you ok OP?

My husband did this. The occasional shove. Shut my arm repeatedly in the fridge door, and accused me of moving it in the waay on purpose. He shoved and kicked me in bed once, to in his words "check i was alive'. Pinned me against our backdoor as I begged him not to leave during an argument, in front of our daughter. He was an aggressive angry bully. Make no mistake, this is abusive and threatening behaviour and is a poor foundation for a relationship. Get yourself free whilst you can.

I’m glad you’re out. Stay out and away and try to get your other child back because he is no role model that a child can look up to.
My H scares me. He has never touched me but has been extremely aggressive. I have tried to tell one or two people but they always take his side because, “he is kind, sociable and charming!”
Take care!

So sorry you're in this position op.

Glad you've left and have somewhere to stay for two weeks, what can you do about accommodation after that, would your mum let you stay on until you get somewhere.

Please contact women's aid for advice on what to do next, they have an online chat service now too.

Just copy and paste this thread in and tell.thek.its what you posred on.mumsnet for advice.

It's a pity one if your children chose to stay but what can you do about that .. presumably they'll have to.return to you if/when he goes to work (?)

It sounds like you need to get your ducks lined up for separating and later divorcing.

Have you read Lundy Bancroft?

www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that-pdf

Apparently Don Hennessy - inside the mind of .. is good too.