What does it mean to you when your SO says they feel lucky to be with you?

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Guy, I'm seeing (almost-boyfriend, I think) and I went out the other night, other guys were hitting on me and he told me that he feels really lucky to be with me. Told me how beautiful I looked and that I was the prettiest girl there without question. He often says this sort of things regardless but it made me feel special.

What does it mean to you?

After 10 years together it means he's seen the very best and very worst of me and it hasn't put him off yet... can't say I'm fighting men off wherever I go, but as long as I don't repel him we're alright 🤣

Side point - is everyone going out now? I still haven't ventured beyond Sainsbury's.

Together 10 years in January and it is normally an acknowledgement he's been a bit of a twat and that no one else would put up with him.

To be honest we have just set off for a staycation with his family that I organised for his birthday and despite me packing everything up for us/baby while he was out having breakfast with his mum/dad he still managed to stomp around that things weren't 'done' (they were- it was stuff he wanted to do that I didn't know about that wasn't) and people needed to 'hurry up and leave'.

I will probably get told once again tonight that he's a bit of a twat and he doesn't know how I put up with him. He's a very good person 90% of the time but the 10% makes me want to push him into a ditch so he can literally be a stick in the mud.

Uh in the context you write I’d feel that he saw me as a trophy and was too hung up on looks.

I wouldn’t know, I’m chronically under appreciated.

It’s nice to feel attractive, op - but what doe she value about YOU?

Blimey, I wouldn't know. No one has ever said anything like that to me... 🙄

After 35 years together he is usually looking at yet another of his friends who has had an acrimonius split because of money, infidelity etc.

We were simultaneously the least responsible of our early 20s friendship group, leaving unsuitable work with nothing else to go to, partying, festivals etc etc, whilst also being the most boring, starting a savings account for £10 / month, buying an affordable flat not a 3 bed house, staycations not sun drenched all inclusives abroad.

I don't need weekly haircuts, nails, clothes etc and he doesn't need weekends in the pub, a mid life crisis motorbike etc.

In the early days he told me I was pretty but most of all he could talk to me... given we both then pushed each other though university in our 30s, something nether family nor friends understood, all thought was a waste of time, that seems to have been the defining structure of our relationship.

@AnnaFour nailed it. In that context I thought the same.